Set Them Free
Remember "Architect Boy" (the urban planner)? Yeah. It's him. Right now, it's too complicated and personal to bare to the internet, but it was just a little bit complicated on my part--I could not love him unconditionally and on the terms that he was ready for. But there were no hard feelings. I really value his friendship--we've actually remained fantastic friends. And maybe if you love someone (even if you love them as a friend, insofar as your're allowed to "love" your friends), you have to set them free. I just...didn't expect tears to start streaming down my face at the news a few weeks ago.
I'm going to say something now here and come back to it one day later on: sometimes I think that in some ways, I think too much like a guy. And when you're female, thinking like a man can trip you up and get you into trouble (or keep you single). OK. Hold that thought and put it on the shelf.
In other news, I went for my six-month appointment w/ my rheumatologist today. The good news is that despite my joint woes having flared up since August, she's going to keep my drug regimen the same for now. I had been afraid she was going to get out the big guns (i.e., the biologic response modifiers better known--or advertised on tv--as "Infliximab/Remicade", "Enbrel", "Humira". It may be irrational, but those drugs scare me on a financial level (they are super expensive and often not covered, even for a single vial), and maybe more importantly, on a medical level b/c they're typically injected or you have to go to a hospital infusion center to have them. And those drugs significantly raise your risk of infections and non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Especially when I think about my advisor's husband, it's just not worth those kinds of risks. The treatment is worse than the condition it's meant to treat. My rheumatologist is really great--she listens well, explains things well, and she also respects my feelings about wanting to be careful with medications in light of long-term side-effect risks. I'm really going to be hard-pressed to find someone as good as she is if I have to move away after graduating.
OK. I'm sure there's more to say, but I'm tired after a long and busy day and especially sleepy after having a warm bowl of homemade matzoh ball soup made by yours truly. More as it happens...